The hidden cost of putting up with pain: why so many just ‘put up with it’.

She thought the ache would pass. It didn’t.

She didn’t make a fuss. Didn’t rush to get scans. Didn’t even tell many people. It was just a dull ache, starting in her lower back after lifting her daughter out of the bath one evening. That was it. Just a small twinge, the kind of thing every parent shrugs off.

Her name is Sarah. Thirty-nine. Works part-time, always on the move, raising two kids and squeezing in the occasional jog when she could. She thought the ache would pass. It didn’t.

Over time, stretching became routine. Then came the heat packs, the short-lived massages, and eventually, the endless YouTube videos titled things like "5 Best Exercises for Lower Back Pain." Some of it helped. Mostly, it didn’t.

She stopped jogging, quietly. Then she stopped lifting her youngest, always with a joke about being "too old for this." Eventually, she began opting out of things she used to love: bushwalks, weekend markets, even sitting for long lunches with friends. None of it was a big decision. Just a slow shift.

The worst part wasn’t the pain. It was that quiet, creeping feeling that maybe this was just how life was going to be now. That maybe she was broken. That maybe, as one physio had once hinted, she just needed to accept it and keep building strength.

It was her husband who nudged her to try something different. He’d heard about a clinic that didn’t look at pain the usual way. They didn’t start with the site of pain. They looked for the reason the brain was protecting that area in the first place.

She was skeptical. She’d done the rounds. What else was there to find?

But within minutes of that first session, something shifted. Not the pain—not yet. Her understanding. They checked her back, yes, but quickly moved on. Her right calf, of all places, was completely locked up. No pain there, but no movement either. The clinician explained that the brain might be protecting her back because it didn’t feel safe loading through the leg properly.

They worked gently on that spot. She stood up. Moved around. Bent forward.

It felt different. Not fixed, not miraculous. Just different—like the guarding had dropped. Like the body trusted itself again.

Over the next few sessions, the pain began to disappear. Not because they “strengthened” her core or “stretched” her back, but because they found the real reason her brain had put up the pain in the first place.

In fact, a recent 2025 study from the University of Cambridge, published in Rheumatology, revealed just how damaging this can be. It found that when patients are misdiagnosed—especially when their symptoms are dismissed as "just in their head"—the consequences extend far beyond the physical. It leads to long-term damage to their confidence, emotional wellbeing, and trust in the healthcare system. Even when the initial label is given with good intent, it can quietly change a person’s sense of self.

The problem isn’t that clinicians don’t care or aren’t skilled. It’s that most systems are set up to treat what hurts, not find out why it hurts.

The site of pain is rarely the true source of the problem.

Sarah laughs about it now. "All those months I spent torturing my hip flexors, and it was my calf the whole time."

She still catches herself being cautious sometimes. Still second-guesses the stairs or long drives. But now, there’s a sense of trust building back in. Her world is getting bigger again.

It turns out pain isn't always what we think it is. And sometimes, when it lingers, it’s not a sign of damage—it’s a sign of protection.

For Sarah, that one insight changed everything.

What We Do Differently: At Youngify, we:

• Focus on the brain's protection of muscles, joints and nerves, everywhere—not just the sore spot

• Find the real area the brain is protecting (often it’s not where the pain is)

• Get quick results by working directly with how the body and brain talk to each other

• Skip the long rehab programs, stretching, and strengthening that don't get to the real cause

No fluff. Just the science of what can really work when nothing else has.

What You Can Do Now: You're welcome to take the next step, whether you're ready or just curious:

• 📘 Download our free ebook to explore how neuroscience explains your pain–see below

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